Its Personal

In the words of the prophet Monica “It’s just one of those days, when I wanna be all alone. It’s just one of those days, when I wanna be on my own. It’s just one of those days, don’t take it personal. “

It is always personal, but not always negative. Most times you didn’t do anything to someone else to make them switch up on you. LIFE HAPPENED.

Their life changed in a way, where the time y’all use to spend talking, hanging or wasting is now occupied by something more important. Whether it is intentional or unintentional it happened. That doesn’t negate the quality time you spent with that person. It also doesn’t mean you are not important. Learn to give grace. If the friendship or relationship is meant to be, when you need them they will be there.

Understand at our big age, life is happening. Some know how to navigate it and still be considerate of others feelings, some can’t.

Most people isolate, it’s me..I am most people.

When my world gets overwhelming, I retreat into my home to heal my battle wounds from fighting with the world. Fighting to be accepted, fighting to maintain boundaries, fighting for life balance, fighting to be successful in a world that can care less about me because of my ancestry, fighting for respect and maintaining hope that I will get the love I deserve. For me, that isolation is personal.

We as people need to learn that all separation is not personal, but sometimes it’s intentional. If that person is important to you, have a conversation about your feelings. If the answer is not one you can live with as a friend or a partner then move on with the memories.

Don’t persecute or condemn the person. Everybody doesn’t handle stressful situations in the same way and that should be accepted and respected. Unless it is intentionally hurtful, then you really need to evaluate why YOU want to stay in that relationship or friendship.

We outgrow people sometimes and that is okay. As you get older, you change and see the world differently..some people don’t get there as fast or ever.

Just work to be the best you possible. Everything else will fall into place. You might lose some people along the way, anybody that is meant to walk with you on this journey will be there, no matter what. If you have to take the journey alone, don’t take it personal.

Too many voices can stunt your growth and decision making. Listen to your own. One Band..One sound.