I was going over some of my old writings and I found this old dating story. Read and enjoy.
Okay..somebody please help me out!! I met this guy on Wed. We spent most of the day outside my apartment talking. He talked about how his baby momma, three children, and her fiancee' lived next door to me. He was only over here visiting before he started his job on the other side of town. My first mind said..DON'T TALK TO HIM!! He has three children, he is only out for a quick fuck before he goes to the other side of town, plus if you don't like him, he is too close for you to walk past him and him not notice you. Other than his height. There was nothing else about him that I found physically attractive.
I live by the motto, "Don't piss where you lay." Which in this case, should have been something I followed.
Doubting myself, I called and asked for advice from my friends. They said, "Trey..you overthink things..you should just give him a chance..you need to take the risk..give something different a try..you are too hard on men." I thought about it and said okay maybe I need to give him a try. So, that night...I invited him in to watch the game. Everything was cool..however even after I told him we weren’t having sex. He made a lot of sexual references. He kept telling me how much he liked head and how affectionate he was. I told him, that I made a change in my life where I wasn't having sex until I was married. He made comments like. I wish I would have met you before you changed..and how do you know. if you wait till marriage to have sex that your marriage will work.?
That night he texted me like 30 times just to see if he could come back over. (I put him out as soon as the game went off and I had the light on the whole time!) I told him we could be JUST FRIENDS! I got the feeling he was only in it for sex. But, when I called him on it. He kept saying, "No, I am interested in you because you got good conversation and you are somebody I would make my woman." Again, I went to my friends for advice and to voice my concerns. They again said, "that is classic you Trey..you always try to find something wrong with a dude so you won't have to talk to him..or you are just saying that because you don't want to actually be happy..give the man a chance..maybe he really wants to be with you. So, on Thursday, I invited him in again to watch the game.
This time he sat right up under me. He kept trying to cuddle and I was looking at him like what the hell are you doing. I AM TRYING TO WATCH THE GAME DAMMIT!! He kept trying to give me a massage and stuff. I got up turned the light on and moved to the other end of the couch. After he got his food, he turned the light back off and sat back up under me. He tried to kiss me once and I looked at him like he had lost his mind. I asked him, WHAT THE HELL ARE YOU DOING?? He was like, “nothing I just think you are so sexy!” I was sitting there praying Lord, please let this game not go into overtime. Please Lord, let this game be over so I can get this man out of my house. As soon as the game was over, I was like okay. Its time for you to go. He was like, "Can I have a hug?" In my mind I was thinking. Whatever will get you out of my house the fastest! While in the hug he tried to kiss me, and I almost pushed him over the daymn table. I told him, "you can get out now." Today is Friday, he called me. I didn't answer. Every 30 min he was at my door knocking. I didn't answer. He called me. I didn't answer. Every time I left my house, I was worried he would be outside. But Thank God!! He wasn’t. But, when I came back from my daughters banquet and he was outside with his boys. I spoke to all of them and went in the house. I was only in my house for 5 min and he called. I didn't answer. Then he came to my door.
I answered it, because at this point he needed to be corrected IN PERSON! I told him that the behavior he displayed the night before made me not interested in him anymore. He stood there for a min and said, I don't understand what you mean. He then said, "So you gone call me, right?" My thoughts were; If you call me every 30 min and I don't answer. Doesn’t that mean I don't want to talk to you? If you text me every 30 min and I don't respond (and you know I am always on my phone) shouldn't that let you know I don't want to talk to you? If you come at me and I reject you by pushing you away and looking at you like you have lost your mind...shouldn't that let you know that I am not interested in you like that?? If I tell you ..I am not interested in you because I don't appreciate the way you came at me. Doesn’t that mean I don't want to talk to you?
Clearly, he did not get the hint or the blunt way I told him I was no longer interested. I really need to learn how to be out cold, because obviously the "Its Not U, Its Me" Is not working. Somebody help me!!!
I am sitting here laughing at this whole experience. My take away from this; God loves me. Even in my naivete, he covered me. That dude, could have raped me at any point and my dumb self invited him over TWICE! That was when I first started dating here in Houston. I would like to say, the quality of men has gotten better...but that would be a lie. What I will say is, I have gotten smarter.
More dating stories coming soon...
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